I’ve been thinking alot lately about how Empaths are drawn to individuals that don’t always have their best interests at heart.  I am no stranger to the connection between Empaths and Narcissists as this is a topic that is near and dear to my heart and so I thought I would expand upon the role that Empaths play in all of this, since we know that they are usually the ones that end up suffering the most as a result of this “attraction.”  Empaths are sensitive to energy and have the amazing ability to be able to pick up on other people’s pain and suffering.  This pain and suffering isn’t necessarily obvious, meaning it’s usually buried within the individual, as is the case with most people.  The Empath themselves have this pain buried deep within and this subconsciously draws them to the other person like a magnet.  Now, this is not the kind of thing you want happening when it comes to the romance department.  As Empaths, we can tend to want to give others the love that they may have never had or were missing from a parent or caregiver.  Many Empaths can certainly relate and identify with this, whether they’re aware of it or not.  Because of their own need for healing the Empath will try to fix others in an attempt to heal their own initial trauma.  This unfortunately leads to more pain and suffering as these relationships usually fail.  This makes the Empath feel even more defeated and can lead to many more people and situations coming to them that require “fixing.”  The Universe keeps putting these people together so that they will awaken to their OWN need for healing.  If Empaths want to change the type of people they are attracting, then the solution is simple: heal the trauma that caused the initial pain and suffering.  This will cause a change in the frequency being emitted from the individual.   They will start to attract people capable of true intimacy and all the other things that Empaths truly desire in a relationship.  Until they deal with the wounds of the past, they are essentially pushing away from them the love that they really do desire.  Don’t confuse fixing people with loving them.